Salaam, I’m LaYinka!
Certified Neuro-Linguistic Programming Therapist
When people want to improve their lives, they often focus entirely on the things they’re doing rather than the person they’re being. This surface-level focus leads to a quick ‘fix’ that doesn’t last very long, so they feel frustrated and stuck.
You’ve been there, right? And it sucks.
The good news is that there’s a better solution.
Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) is an inside-out approach to transformation and change. Using the workings and power of your thoughts and feelings, you can transform your behaviour and transform your life to get more of what you want.
As a certified NLP therapist, I empower Muslim mothers to rediscover who you are, regain control of your thoughts and emotions, and reignite those relationships that matter to you most. Together, we explore below the surface of problems, root out and obliterate internal blocks in your way, and ultimately transform your life.
It was one day in 2014, when I was shocked by the woman I saw in my reflection. After a meltdown with my children, I stood in the bathroom and stared at myself in the mirror. Drained, empty, overwhelmed, frustrated, and lost, I hated the woman I saw. I couldn’t recognise her and she was bringing misery, tension, and anger in her home and projecting that onto her children.
It was ugly. And it was tiring.
Staring hard at myself in the mirror, I cried because I didn’t know how I’d allowed myself to get there. I looked at myself and asked a single question that set my heart in motion:
“LaYinka, if you died today, what would your children have to say about you?”
From the answers that came forth — passive aggressive, always shouting, harsh, negative and complaining… — I knew that I couldn’t go out with that legacy. I couldn’t carry on on that trajectory. I couldn’t carry on just pretending everything was okay — faking it and I not making it. I knew something had to change before I lost the people who were important to me and before I lost everything I loved.
So I embarked on the journey to know myself, understand myself, forgive myself, embrace myself, love myself, and become a better version of myself. I focused on myself, regardless of the messiness going on in my home, because:
“Indeed, God will not change the condition of a people until they change what is in themselves.”
– Quran: chapter 13, verse 11
With counselling and NLP therapy, I evolved and emerged a different woman, and became softer, kinder, more open mother. More of a mother my 3 children deserve — all praise to The Most High! Am I a finished product? Not at all. I’m always growing and learning from the tests, the highs, and all the opportunities God sends my way.
And this is why I’m the best person to support you, burned out and overwhelmed mama: I’ve been there, I went on the journey, and I know what it’s like to get to and be on the other side.
Isn't it time for you evolve and emerge?
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