As you’re reading this, I’m pretty sure there’s something you’ve wanted to do or have been wanting to do for the looooooongest time and you’ve held yourself back. I’m sure there’s something you’ve wanted to do (or have been wanting to do) that you’ve either been procrastinating, or you’ve told yourself, ‘Not right now. This isn’t the time’, or you’ve kinda told yourself it’s not possible. And you tell yourself this because of fear.
Fear of rejection.
Fear of failure.
Fear of how people will think of you, what people will say about you, or how they’ll view you.
Let’s think about fear of failure for a second. Failure is something that happens as a result of taking risks, right? I mean, in order for you to ‘fail’ it requires that you put yourself out there and do something risky. So, fear of failure is a mahoosive (massive+huge) reason why many of us stop ourselves in our tracks from doing many things we’d love to do because no one wants to fall flat on their face or look like a fool. Right?
Failure as an Opportunity
Imagine this: Imagine if all children that were ever born, that moment they fell when they are learning to walk, they decided, ‘You know what? This walking thing just ain’t for me. I’m just gonna sit on my backside,’ — what would’ve become of humankind? We’d be a creation who just sat on their behind. A child is a perfect example of resilience and determination. They fall, they get up; they fall again, and they get up; they fall once more, and they keep getting up.
From the lens of a child, that fall isn’t failure, it’s an opportunity.
That fall isn’t a sign that they’re not good enough, or that they’re not cut out for the walking business, or that this is just not meant to be. They strategise and they get up, and they are determined to make walking happen for them.
Suppose you did the same. Suppose you, too, saw failure as an opportunity to grow; as an opportunity to learn; as an opportunity to move forward in a direction for yourself. Wouldn’t that be amazing? Wouldn’t it be amazing to see failure as just a way to gain lessons, rather than a way to define yourself as not being great or being awful at something.
The lens through which you view failure frames your thinking, which leads to your actions or inaction.
I invite you to see failure and possible failure as an opportunity that will lead you to move in a direction that’s beneficial; in the direction of growth; in the direction of what you want. And as you consider this, think of the great impact this will have on you and the impact it’ll have in the grand scheme of your life.
I’d love to hear from you! What’s one thing you’re holding yourself back from due to fear of failure? How could changing how you view failure change things for you? Comment below and let’s have a conversation.