‘I don’t want to feel tired’; ‘I don’t want to keep procrastinating’; ‘I don’t want people to see the true me’.
What do all these statements have in common? They all state what the person doesn’t want.
Have you ever had a time where you’ve been worried or frustrated about something and all you can think about is how much you don’t want to be dealing with that situation? Have you ever wondered why exactly you remain stuck in that spiral of ‘I don’t want’ without moving forward or the situation not panning out the way you’d like?
It’s because you’re not feeding your mind with what you do want.
I know this may seem airy fairy, but stick with me, love.
One morning, Bossman (my husband) asked if I’d like to do the Insanity workout with him. My mind went into ooooooohmygoooodness mode because if you know anything about Insanity, you’d know that it is a killer workout. But, then I realised I hadn’t been sticking to my self-imposed exercise routine, so I agreed to join him.
So there we were, jumping and squatting, then the instructor says we need to do his version of mountain climbers. I immediately said, “I HATE this move!” and you wouldn’t believe how much I started to struggle and decrease in energy. Then I realised what I’d done: I’d fed my mind with what I didn’t want and my body was reacting by making it seem harder. So what did I do? I switched it up.
“I love this move! I love this move! I love this move!”
Did the mountain climbers get easier? You bet not! But what did happen was that my energy levels increased and I actually reached the end of the sequence.
Now, I’m sharing this with you not because you need to know how out of shape I am, but because I want to illustrate how powerful your words and thoughts are. If you keep telling yourself what you don’t want in your life — especially your writing life — that’s all you’re ever going to get.
So, I ask you, what is it that you want in your writing life, and are you telling yourself that?
Have a mull over that this week.